FIRST LOVE. MOVE ON!

Okay, being attracted to the other sex is normal. INFATUATION comes in for the ones ages 13-18, I think. BUT according to www.diffen.com, INFATUATION means the state of being carried away by unreasoning desires. It is maybe for a reason of urgency, choices, experience or intensity. Infatuation is more defined as is a static process characterized by an unrealistic expectation of blissful passion without positive growth and development. From the meaning itself, INFATUATION means a lack of commitment or a  lack of loyalty. People do get into a relationship or more of like Mutual Understanding, for my case because there's a state of desire to a person. MORE OF LIKE CRUSH.

Honestly, being infatuated is the happiest moment of all especially to us, teenagers. You feel so protected, so secured, super HAPPY! You always think of that certain person EVERY TIME!, you get to be daydreaming of your plans when you see each other the next day, you are HAPPY and CONTENTED with your company to that person. In short, your world revolves to that person. And more likely, MORE EXPECTATIONS are expected at this stage. For you are expecting that HE/SHE is already the ONE. Di po yan malabong mangyari na maging kayo. BUT I think, all of the people experience the thing called INFATUATION. 

But when this INFATUATION comes to an end, everything does not come in place. Maybe only one was hurt, or the both parties. But most of the situations, only one is left alone, crying and being weak. ITS SO HARD TO ACCEPT THE FACT that you are not meant to be. MOVING ON is the hardest part. Diba nga, ang happiness mo lies on him/her.Nandun na yung ROUTINE na you always text, call or meet him/her which is super mahirap kapag mawala. Then, accepting the fact na WALA NA TALAGA. How hard kaya yuuuun? Pero ika nga nila "LET IT BE"

So as you are starting to MOVE ON, a process is indeed needed. Here are some of it na nagawa ko :

CRY AND CRY. Crying helps kasi nalalabas mo ang sama ng loob mo. Mga hinanakit sa loob. Atleast wala kang kinikmkim kasi nailabas mo by CRYING. Imagine, only humans are crying EMOTIONALLY, kaya its a one of a kind. When you cry, you show vulnerability because your vision is blurred.(Chaaar!) This allows someone who cares about you, to take care of you while you are in a weakened state. Diba, yan naman talaga ang essence ng Crying, to express and to remove the pain sa heart ♥ :)

BE WITH FRIENDS. Yan ang suggestion ng almost of all the people, be with friends. Kasi when you are with your friends, nakakawala ng STRESS. you get the smile in your face, the loudest laugh that you deserve and the fun in order to get away with the problems. Kaya, kahit na nagkaroon ka ng problema, nawala naman ito because of them, kahit in a day with them :)

REMINISCE THE PAST. Para sa akin ha, nakakatulong sya. Bakit? Kasi, the more mo inaalala ang mga nangyari with your loves before, nasasanay ka sa sakit. In short, nasasaktan ka ngunit MASASANAY KA. Di naman kasi maiwasan na maalala mo ang mga ganung bagay dahil nga may pinagsamahan na kayo, NAKATATAK na talaga yan. May times na mamimiss mo yan, ngunit maiintindihan mo, mafefeel mo ang pain in which YOU'LL GET USED TO.

TALK AND TALK. Talk and talk with your experience with him/her before. Either happy moments, sad moments, and what had happenbed kung bakit natapos ang relationship. The more you talk about it, the less the pain you'll get kasi nashe-share mo sa ibang tao ang experience mo. Sinasabi mo na, nakatulong sayo, makakatulong ka pa sa ibang tao dahil sa experience mo. Wapaaaak!

KEEP YOURSELF BUSY. Ito! Keep yourself busy para di mo sya maiisip. Madami namang things na pwedeng gawin. You can Read alot of books! Mas maganda yan kasi nagawork ang utak mo. Di sya waste of time kasi you are imagining things of what you read. Pwede ring, MAGLINIS KA NG BAHAY. Total wala kang ginagawa, instead na magmukmok ka, LINISIN NA ANG KWARTO o ang BUONG BAHAY! Saya pa! :D You can do charity works, madaming mga operations na ino-offer, gaan sa loob pa ang naidulot nito, nakatulong ka pa sa kapwa mo tao :)  Being busy, helps you ran away sa mga PAIN NA YAN! WALANG KWENTA. Acheche! :')

NEVER LISTEN TO MELLOW MUSICS. Wag na wag talagang makikinig sa mga mellow musics, lalo na about Love songs. SUS! MUHILAK RA KA. Instead, listen to Reggae songs, it soothes the heart. Or to Party music, it uplifts the mind. Just be happy and forget to RELATE to those kinds of sounds. Mawawala lang rin yan. That's part of moving on :)

EAT. EAT more of the SWEETS! Kasi nga, sabi nila nakakataas ng hormones ang sweets, especially CHOCOLATES  ♥ Nom-nom pa :) And EAT alot kasi nakakawala ng DEPRESSION and STRESS. GIVE YOURSELF HAPPINESS. Stressors sila, PABAYAAN! HAHAHA. Bahala na siya ang Bitter, basta ikaw hindi. Kumakain sya ng more of AMPALAYA eh, kasi nga Vegetarian sya :D

NEVER STALK. Marami ng sources ngayon! HELLO FACEBOOK! You can try seeking his/.her profile PERO most probably sana ONCE lang. Then after try not to look into his/her PROFILE! Ikaw ra'y luoy. If EMO2 sya, mabuti kasi DI LANG IKAW ang nakakamiss kundi sya rin. NGUNIT! Kapag nakikita mong MASAYA syaa. Mga Manaaaang! MOVE ON! Di Worth it! May pa sya happy happy ikaw diha, thinking of that person, crying pa! BE HAPPY UY! BE BUDOY! ;)

BE HAPPY, BE BLESSED. Why? Kasi nangyari sayo yan.LALO NA'T FIRST MO? Huuuy, BE BLESSED! Bakit? Kasi, God gave you a chance to be able to experience that. GOOD SIGN NA YAN! (if you know what I mean :P) And be blessed kasi you may be heartbroken pero you will really know the REAL AND TRUE FRIENDS around. Jan mo makikita kung sinu-sino sila! and you'll just be grateful kasi may nawala nga, pero madami namang nagmamahal sayo. KAYA KERIBELLS! :)

BOND WITH YOUR FAMILY! :') Kasi, aminin natin. Nagkaroon tayo ng lalabs kaya nalalayo tayo sa ating pamilya. Each one of us, makakasabi na totoo to. This is the time para makabawi ka. Pwede ring maging open ka sa recent na nangyari sayo. That will be more good kasi wala kang itinatago sa kanila, mas gagaan pa ang loob mo. NOTHING BEATS THE BOND OF A FAMILY PA RIN UY! :)

PRAY! Lastly, PRAY. Pray na sana you'll be okay, na kayanin mo ang nangyari sayo. Na God will heal your heart and the person's heart that you love. Na you will be okay. Ask his guidance and  assistance as you move on, as you walk alone. Never regret, never hesitate and never complain kay God kung bakit nangyari sayo yun. Instead BE THANKFUL! Kasi God gave someone na will help you become a more of the mature person. Also, ask him that THINGS WILL TURN OUT JUST FINE :) Di naman end of the world pag nawala sya, kasi you have God, who is truly your FIRST LOVE ♥.

“It happens to everyone as they grow up. You find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you've known forever don't see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.”  -Nicholas Sparks ♥